{"product_id":"14","title":"Say Your Name","description":"\u003cp data-start=\"1024\" data-end=\"1132\"\u003eA few years ago, I started speaking to myself differently — with intention, with kindness, and with my name.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp data-start=\"1134\" data-end=\"1377\"\u003eInstead of rushing through life on autopilot, I began checking in. “Okay, Stephanie. Get up.” “Be careful, Stephanie.” It felt small at first. But over time, something shifted. I was gentler. More present. More aware that I deserved care, too.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp data-start=\"1379\" data-end=\"1708\"\u003eThis essay explores the quiet power of using your own name in self-talk — a practice supported by psychology and neuroscience. Research shows that self-distanced self-talk helps regulate emotions, reduce stress, and strengthen decision-making. Hearing your own name activates identity and recognition in ways few other words can.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp data-start=\"1710\" data-end=\"1837\"\u003eAt its core, this is an essay about self-compassion. About learning to speak to yourself the way you would to someone you love.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp data-start=\"1839\" data-end=\"1954\"\u003eBecause healing doesn’t always start with big declarations.\u003cbr data-start=\"1898\" data-end=\"1901\"\u003eSometimes it starts with simply saying your own name.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRead the full essay on Her Quiet Fire → \u003ca rel=\"noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/1stephanieolds.substack.com\/p\/say-your-name?r=5q06u6\" target=\"_blank\"\u003eFull Essay\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Stephanie Olds’ Bookshelf","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47454970904814,"sku":null,"price":0.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0748\/0898\/3790\/files\/Essay14.jpg?v=1766702495","url":"https:\/\/stephanieolds.com\/products\/14","provider":"Stephanie Olds’ Bookshelf ","version":"1.0","type":"link"}